Whilst there I didn't actually realise how much I NEEDED time out, time out from my phone, TV and daily living such as washing, dishes, groceries etc. until I FELT my body and mind relax, what a beautiful feeling that was!
You see, I tend to thrive on stress (it affects me both positively and negatively) and when I think back, I always have (I was that person at uni still finishing my assignments up until the very last minute before cut off to submit!). But instead of looking after myself like I should, I do the bare minimum, and it's not only myself that suffers, but also my wonderful partner and beautiful children.
When mumma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!
I had actually been putting things in place to help me deal with the stressors in my life better a few months prior to our holiday, but it just goes to show that change requires baby steps, especially if I want this to stick rather than just the band aid I've been attaching when s$&! hits the fan, because 'oh I'll be right', right?!
I thought I would share a few things I've been doing and have yet to do to stop my head exploding, because gurrll I know I ain't the only one sufferin' here!
- being 'selfish' at least once a day, meaning that I set aside 15-30mins or so to do WHAT I WANT TO DO, eg. Reading my book that's taking me months to get through, go for a walk, watch a webinar, watch a movie or TV show etc
- spending a good solid 15 mins play time with my girls without interruptions from my phone or 'things I need to do', and also reducing the amount of time I say 'just wait a minute, I need to finish this' (reading this point over again makes me sound like a horrible mother but it will be a massive achievement for me as even though I am there with them, I am very rarely 'present' if you know what I mean)
- soon to have a separate work and personal phone so as to avoid the temptation to reply to work-related texts and emails on my days off
- breathing into my lower abdomen rather than into my chest (typical 'stress' breathing)
- seeking the help of multiple practitioners where necessary to aid that sore back or racing mind etc
These are things that have and will hopefully work for ME, it's ok if these don't work for you, we are all different and lead different lives, we can't expect to all fit into the same jigsaw puzzle.
What about you, are you a 'stress' junkie that neglects themselves? Or have you altered your life to help you deal with stress better? If so, what has worked for you? It's great to share tips!