Before the appointment, putting the actual contacts in didn't really cross my mind. So when I got there and the Optometrist wanted to try and put them in first, I immediately went into panic mode. You see, I am one of those people that is not very good with someone else even putting my mascara on, let alone someone poking me in the eye! We tried several times on one eye, and once on the other eye but I just couldn't do it. "Let's go out and see how you go putting them in yourself, that might be a bit easier for you" he said. By that stage I already felt defeated but thought it best to at least try. I tried a few times but it was no good, I honestly could have cried. "Go home and practice getting your finger close to your eye, watch some you tube videos on how to put contact lenses in, then come back and we'll try again". Yes! Of course! We can try again! My spirits lifted, I can do this, it's just going to take a bit of time and lots of practice.
We are either born as someone that likes a challenge, or that doesn't like a challenge, and I am certainly one that doesn't. But, I have worked on this over the years and feel that it most certainly can be changed. My initial reaction is often still very much "I can't do this" and feel like I want to cry, but after stopping and saying to myself that "I can do it, it's just going to take practice" I start to look at the situation differently.
Many of my clients have to start something new, something they've never done before. Whether it be, avoiding a certain food they've lived on most of their life because it's causing them issues, or understanding how to build a life without their eating disorder, it all requires change that has never had to be implemented before. Initially, it's really hard and at times they feel like "what's the point", but then something just clicks and it starts to become their norm. They keep at it, they repeated the new change over and over and they reaped the benefits.
You see, if we believe we can do it, then we can do it. It may take several weeks, it may take years, but regardless of time, every small step you're taking eventually adds up to one big step. Don't underestimate the small changes, every single one of them counts.