The other night during our consult, I was asking him "how can I improve this area of my life?" "How can I do this better in my business?" "What do I need to do?".
And he replied with something along the lines of, "You need to stop, stop trying to figure everything out and just let it be. Before you deal with any of that, you need to have time with nothing other than just yourself, music, or a meditation app". And I couldn't have agreed with him more.
How about actually feeling your feelings instead of always being scared or pushing them to the side?
The more I thought about it the more I realised I never just do 'nothing', even when I think i'm relaxing and taking time out i'm still doing something, whether it be watching a movie, reading a book, talking with someone, eating, drinking etc, i'm never just with my own thoughts and actually s t o p p i n g. Hence why even when I do take time-out, I very rarely actually feel rested because I never just 'be'.
It has taken me up to this point to actually realise this and to notice that i've been doing this for years and years! And if my life coach had have said this to me 6 months ago, it would have taken me a lot longer to get my head around it because I wouldn't have exactly been ready to start working on it or to process it, whereas now I feel I can.
So, now I am taking a minimum of 5 minutes every day to either just sit in silence and be with my thoughts, or to listen to a guided meditation app I have (Simply being, it's awesome). I am also learning to sit with my feelings and to notice them and their ebb and flow, rather than sub-consciously drowning them out and 'oh I feel crap, quickly do something to make yourself busy or happy!' I am already noticing the difference - feeling like i'm dragging less around, actually feeling rested and like i've had some 'me' time, and feeling less resentful towards my fiance and kids because i'm now having quality down-time.
Do you do things to distract yourself and avoid what's actually going on inside? Do you ever just 'be'?