If you have ever seen Mad Men, you'll understand what I mean when I say they drink, a lot, and smoke, a lot. It's just constantly in your face and carried out by them as if it is the norm to drink at work, let alone every day it seems, and smoke copious amounts of cigarettes, indoors mind you (it was set quite a number of years ago).
Often after binge watching a few episodes, I'll be honest here, I am hanging for a stiff drink and a cigarette!!
What i'm trying to get at here is that if we are exposed to something enough, and we are made to feel like it is the norm, we are much more likely to take on whatever we are being exposed to.
For example, if we grow up watching a parent diet, say horrible things about themselves, and are never happy with the way they look, how do you think that might affect our self esteem and self confidence?
If this sounds familiar, then it is what you know, it is what is the 'norm' to you.
This repetition can be used in a positive way too. It is actually how I encourage my clients to change habits and their way of thinking; the more they repeat an action or a saying, the more it becomes their norm and something they actually believe.
You can change your norm too, did you know that? You can eat what you feel you want to eat and what your body needs, and also feel good to be you.
At the moment, that probably sounds ludicrous as it's going against everything you've ever been 'told' or 'made' to believe is true, but I want to just ask you something before you click off the page...has it really worked for you? Has all the shit self-talk and thoughts, the feeling guilty for eating something because it's 'bad' for you, wearing crappy clothes because you don't want to buy new ones because you 'really are going to lose 5 kg in the next few weeks', really made you feel better? Has it really made you happy?
If not, consider looking at things from a different angle, what have you got to lose other than possibly finding out that you're a pretty damn awesome chick who deserves and craves love from herself, and deserves to be spoken to with respect? Just sayin...